It'll Be Nice.

Sometimes, I just wish that there is a friend or even friends who will truly understand what I'm going through. Be it whatever scenario it may be. Okay, lets not direct the subject to me but generally to whoever it may be. Wouldn't it be nice to just sit down and get a piece of advice from their experience? Not to say that the advices given by friends who hasn't been through a certain situation before is useless. It is still helpful and encouraging. No doubt about that. :) However, I feel that it is more effective if the person has personally gone through the particular situation before. It'll be more of a hands on experience and somewhat, they'll be able to relate more closely to one since they're able to be in the other party's shoes.

And at times, friends tend to say "I understand" or "I feel you" but they don't really do in actual fact. Which is rather... I don't know. I can't find the correct words to describe the situation. Lol. Perhaps the sentence is becoming more and more over rated now. People say it for the sake of saying it as a form of portraying their sympathy to one. I mean, I understand that at that point of time, all you want to do is be supportive of your friend and to ensure them that everything will eventually be fine and that you are there for them. But don't you think that there are so many other forms of illustrating your sympathy towards them or even ways to make them feel better?

I just feel that instead of saying that you understand what someone might be going through when you don't actually do, why not just be honest and say something like, "I'm sorry but I really don't know what to say and don't want to end up saying the wrong things." Wouldn't it be easier than saying I understand and when your friend expects some words of encouragement, you can't come up with one. Instead, you're trying so hard that you probably say something wrong then.

I admit, I've said that more than once or twice even though I don't truly understand what my friend is going through. It simply comes so naturally that I can't help but saying it then. Lol. Nevertheless, I personally think that I've learned through experience that I should just be honest with them if I don't actually know what they're going through. And usually, a pat on their back or a hand over their shoulders and even a long and warm hug is good enough for them. Things don't have to be so sophisticated. :) Or that is how I feel lah.

I guess everyone has their own way of relating to people through their down times. Everyone is different and unique in their own way, aren't they? :) And this is just how I would relate to people and is simply a food for thought that came out of no where from my brains. Hee.

I never did expect such words to come out of your mind.

Cause I expected you to understand me better than the others.

I hope that I'm wrong and that you'll be able to prove me wrong.

To you, it may be for my good. But to me, I guess I've interpreted your message wrongly.